Friday 19 January 2018
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Who Needs A Mentor When You Have Jesus And The Holy Spirit?

  Every couple need a mentor. When I got married 24 years I quickly realized how valuable mentors are to a young couple who want to keep their vows. One secret that an older couple shared with us turned our relationship 360 degrees. I still look up to a few older couples and we attend a lot of seminars and conferences on marriage and relationship.

Doing marriage without a mentor is like having church without a pastor or playing football without a referee -Chaos. (Someone is going want more praise and worship while the others want more sermon) LOL

Having the bible or knowing the rules of a game does not mean you will apply the rules accurately or fairly. To say that only Jesus or Holy Spirit can teach us about marriage is both naive and/or egotistical. God has always worked through men even after the arrival of the Holy Spirit.

Paul admonished Titus to “Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. Titus 21-5

Secondly, the idea that every marriage is different and therefore no one can teach the other about marriage is a wrong conclusion from a wrong premise. Every marriage may be different but every marriage is not supposed to be different. God, the maker of marriage gave us one blueprint for marriage. If we all follow that blueprint we will build marriages that are very much alike.

Let us not be decieved by the devil here. There is a specific role for older couples in making marriage work. However whether you learn from them from a distance or personal relationship your call. Understand that older couples have been through what you are going through. Implicit in that principle is that you, the younger couples must be willing to learn and value the lessons from the older couples. Believe me its a whole new world outside your cocoon or shell.